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SOs- Save Ourselves

Ghana is a wonderful place with lovely people. It has a rich and diverse culture, with a strong sense of morals – mostly influenced by their religions and culture. Yes religion, Ghana is very religious – but also practice a healthy sense of liberalism where they respect their various tribes and different beliefs. They are very hospitable.

FACT

This and many more are what foreigners especially would say when they come to visit.

But if we are as good as they say, why do we still stay where we are?

This is where we are;

corruption, serial killing, unnecessary hatred amongst fellow men and women. Crab pulling on another crab while it climbs upWhenever there seems to be progress a significant number of us turn, and we become people with PhDs (Pull him Down syndrome).

 

It goes on and on. We claim to be people of culture, but what we are actually supposed to be has been deeply adulterated – a development which is least expected of us especially as a religious country.

 

WHAT’S THE SOURCE?

Elements like Pride, jealousy, slothfulness, …these things have gradually corrupted our identity. Even now, there are those of us who are confused with what “wrong” is, thus they go on to contemplate which wrongs are actually right. With all that we are now, we seem to fight against what we are supposed to be. This is who we have become. We have a constitution and in fact, with what we are supposed to be, such a document should mostly be a formality for us as a nation. Our supposedly rich culture and high values from our various religions should have groomed us. Of course, it is statistically impossible to say that we can be a perfect people, but if what we mostly say is what we do, then we ought to be that defying statistic- shoot for the stars, and if you must fall, you fall back on the moon.

This is who we ought to be;

That elder who teaches and also corrects the younger for not following tradition. That tradition that implies and influences respect and honour.

That sister who always gracefully worships God in the church because of her love for her God, that kind of love which frowns upon dishonesty and greed.

There is also the Okyeame, the tribal Chief’s spokesman who relays and communicates wisdom and reminds the people of their native laws – these same laws, which he himself adheres to.

There is the bus passenger who shouts “Amen” in response to that repentant directive given by the bus Preacher.

Also now comes along that parent who shows, before her children, how honourable it is to respect the President of the Nation – even in the face of his backfired plans.

It really goes on and on to this last example, where a teacher in the classroom shows how uncompromising he is to the rules of the class. Where appropriate punishments are meted out for the purpose of correction.

This is who we are supposed to be, and in most cases too, that seems to be the case. However, there seems to be a glut of the opposite rather happening, a disconnect – where we don’t practice what we preach.

 

HOW IS THIS DEFINED?

Hypocrisy is a strong word, and I am very tempted to use it -but no. The living of double lifestyles as a people have not exactly been hidden. It’s not really hypocrisy because it is all out in the open, it’s really an inch-shy of pretence.

There is the open defiance of our morals and culture when we allow corruption to thrive. The same people who fight against vigilante groups, are now being discovered to sponsor them.

Parents are entrusted with children as gifts. Such gifts are meant to be trained in the right way, but now, you would marvel at the filth and gross disrespect that can come out of them.

In seeking fairness and justice from the law itself, there is hardly a time we wouldn’t grease two palms or three. Well some people could argue this as “just a good gesture”, but if you really look at it; consider where one may not have the means, does that mean justice will not prevail as it ought?

Amongst ourselves we are not hypocrites, we could even defend our pride if given the chance. But somehow, in the face of the “white man”, we would “blasphemously” quote culture, and even some religion, basically defending why we are nice to people and even to our land (not to talk of our bad culture of waste management).

LET’S TAKE A STAND

A nation is meant to be one body with a united vision – even if it is just 4 years at a time. However, at the crux of this, where some of us are in sync with progress, the indecisive nature of the rest of us would undermine our expected results.

If for any thing at all, lets watch the younger generations. They are in their mental-formative years. We should bear in mind that they are very receptive and they watch us a lot. Most of the elderly generation are already sad about what they see now. Unless we want a perpetuation of the chaos that we see amongst us now, we should really consider checking ourselves.

The younger generation won’t follow what we say, they will follow what we do. The worst of it is that, if we are indecisive, or constantly doing what is appropriate and what’s not. They will come to the point of casting this chaos in stone – perhaps not as law, but rather as a culture. Let’s teach them by doing.

Let’s Save Ourselves.

The song writer put it this way,

“If you want to make the world a better place,

take a look at yourself and make a change”- Man in the Mirror

By: Michael Jackson.

 

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When Should You Marry Your Girlfriend?

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When is the Right Time to Marry Your Girlfriend

Girlfriends differ in beauty and character. But how will you perfectly plan the right time to marry the right girlfriend? It’s not enough to have a good girlfriend; the pressing issue is when to finally decide to take her to the altar. Nowadays, the ultimate goal of most serious romantic relationships is marriage. Consequently, once you enter into a relationship, you become tied to a string of marriage promises.

 

There is no doubt that marriage is an important social institution which fulfills the common dreams of the lovers involved. In fact, I can’t wait to get married to Bella (my supposed beautiful girlfriend). We have been together for too long (almost 3 years). Even though I would like to get married as soon as possible, I do think that marrying the right girlfriend at the wrong time could negatively affect your futures. The worst case scenario is when you marry a wrong girlfriend at the wrong time; then you are finished.

 

Are you bothered with thoughts about when you should marry your sweetheart? Does your girlfriend keep pestering you with marriage arrangements? Don’t worry; Be relieved. This article will assist you to cope with the pressures and demands which come with dating.

Factors to Consider Before Marriage

Desirable Partner Qualities

Girlfriends come in millions but few are good and marriageable. We can say that, many are called, but few must be chosen. A man may be able to hide and date multiple girls for fun, but theoretically, it’s impossible for him to get married to all of them. I think it is pretty easy to figure out the right girl to marry. Just ask yourself these questions: Do you really love each other? Is your partner understandable or trustworthy? Is she respectful? Can she support you to achieve your dreams? For me, these are the most important qualities I usually expect from good girlfriends. Once I ascertain that a girl possesses these desirable qualities, it becomes very easy for me to fall for such a girl. I can even die for her. Please, don’t try that at home.

 

Capability to Shoulder Responsibilities

I’m still a bachelor, but I can see that, marriage is like an official registration to carry out responsibilities. There is bride price to pay. That is not all; you will have to provide for the physical and emotional needs of your partner. It sounds like marriage isn’t for kids and broke boys. A friend of mine (Emmanuel) shared a marriage advice with me. According to him, if you prematurely rush into a marriage, you will rush out.

 

It’s better to take time to analyze your pocket before you allow a girl to trap you into a poverty-stricken marriage. Even though, riches do not guarantee a successful marriage, money makes things easier. With money, there is more joy and less fights. You need money to be able to take good care of your wife and family. Depending on the nature or class of your girlfriend, it may even be possible for you to get married with little resources. Several people have done it successfully. It is up to you to decide whether you have the minimum amount of resources to sustain a marriage. Do you have time and money?

 

As a fresh unemployed graduate, I wish I could marry early before the age of 29 or 30. The problem is that, I need to get a job or source of income before I succumb myself to marriage pressure from my girlfriend. I don’t know why girls like marriage like that. Is it a world cup? LoL! Anyway, that is understandable. Grown-up girls need independence from their family. At the same time, they are equally pressured by their friends and family members to marry. Therefore, it’s ok for girls to love marriage. However, good girlfriends should ensure that they give their men a chance to succeed, so that they can take good care of their needs. Pressuring a man to marry you ASAP, is not the right way to secure a husband. If he likes/loves you, he will marry you when he is ready. Don’t give too much pressure for young boys to marry you. We understand your impatience, but please gives us a break. We are sorting things out, one after the other.

About My Girlfriend (Bella) and Me

I just don’t know how it happened, but I think my partner and I were destined for each other. We have a fantastic chemistry. Our sense of fun matches perfectly. Fortunately, or maybe unfortunately, our educational levels are far apart. I’m a graduate; she is not. The good news is that, we understand, respect and love ourselves to the maximum. We fool together, cry together and advise each other and hustle together. That’s the beauty of our union. This is not to say that we don’t have problems. In fact, we do argue and annoy each other at times, but we often resolve our differences ASAP.

 

Anyway, forget about my bragging with my girlfriend. I just want to share my relationship experience with you.

 

In summary, the right time for you to marry your girlfriend is when you are ready with cash and attention. In addition to that, make sure your girlfriend is the marriageable type. I have already written great articles about qualities of good girlfriends. Read them and assess your partner before marriage

 

Read My Other Great Articles on Relationships Below

7 Signs of Good Boyfriends

5 Things Which Destroy Relationships

3 Shocking Secrets About Girls

Looking For Motivation? The Article Below Will Change Your View About Life

5 Reasons Why I Still Believe You Can Make It

 

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3 Shocking Secrets of Girls

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Having a girlfriend could be a blessing. Example: For bad cooks like myself, it feels great when she comes around to cook good food for you, in addition to washing and cleaning. As a careless boyfriend, my room is always disorganized until Bella comes to change its appearance. An icing on the cake is when she allows you to swim inside her. No two ways about that; you get to hit the target and  whatnots. You can’t forget to mention the sensations that travel through your nervous system when you kiss her. 😄 Women are just specially made. Let’s give them an A+. Their soft bodies and curvy shapes are gamechangers. Not a lot of men can overlook a fat ass lady passing by. I wonder whether ladies also watch me when I swagger through town; I have never caught a glimpse of a lady trying to steal look at me. My looks aren’t that bad, so why? Anyway, I don’t mind at all.

Unfortunately, behind the appealing shapes of Girlfriends are deep secrets. This article will reveal everything today. Adequate knowledge about the true character of girl is a great asset; it can improve a relationship. But don’t be fooled! If you dig too deep into the secrets of girls, you might lose interest in continuing the relationship. It is advised that you practice moderation when searching for answers; you might become a lifetime enemy to girls.

The following are 3 secrets about girls and girlfriends in general.

They Love Lies

You don’t need to always be truthful to your girlfriend. It’s alright to occasionally lie to her. The truth hurts. So what do you do? Give them lies. I remember that day I told someone that I will put a ring on her finger very soon, she was beaming with smiles. Well, deep within me, it was just a comforting statement😄. I still don’t know my front from my back; you talking of rings, come on.

It’s also important for guys to realize that too much of lies can ruin a serious relationship. Constant lies jeopardize the level of trust between the partners. However, it will shock you to know that some girlfriends are even better liars than boys. A good boyfriend should be able to fish out a lying or cheating girlfriend and then react accordingly.

 

They Hate to Be Fooled

Girls love funny lies but they also hate to be disrespected. Just like men, girls love to be respected and valued. If you go too far with harsh words on your girlfriend, you are slowly decreasing her love for you. They want to have their voices heard, their ideas executed and their advice taken. The last time I made mockery of my girlfriend, I nearly received dirty slaps. I don’t exactly remember what I did.

Ok, got it. She found it unfunny when I started dancing around her to express my joy that she would finally leave my residence the following day, and therefore relieve me from unnecessary expenditure 😃. Ha-ha! That was too lame for her liking. I had fun in saying that, but the look on her face was scary and sorrowful. I had to apologize for saying the truth that way. Remember? I told you that they love lies. Maybe she wanted me to keep pretending that my pocket was still loaded with cash. That was not true to me. If she had intended to stay longer than that, my prepaid electricity meter would have exposed me bigly. I was left with her transportation fee.

 

They Like Money; They Hate Poverty

There you go. It’s normal though. The fact is everybody likes money (including men). Money brings a lot of comfort. Unfortunately, we are still in a generation where most females depend on males for their daily bread. To me, there is nothing wrong with that. The only thing that bores me is when I hear lies such as “What Men Can Do, Women Can Even Do It Better”. I’m sorry, but the statement seems to mean that if men can date women, women can even eat their monies better 😂. I will agree with that one👍.

But don’t get me wrong.  Like I said, it’s not wrong for girls to occasionally request for money from their boyfriends. I even feel happy when I am able to cater for the needs of someone. The problem is that; some girls are like beggars. The only feel shy to step out and beg on the streets.

Some girlfriends are just too financially demanding. For me, I hate their type. I love the average girls who understand the hustles of life and believe in building a future with me. Gold diggers are not wife- materials. We already learnt about that in my earlier articles about qualities of good girlfriends and boyfriends. Many guys have become broke and poor because they went in for expensive girls (Slay Queens). Slay Queens are good-looking, but most of them cannot settle down with 1 man. Because of their promiscuity, some of them even harbor dangerous diseases. Be careful with their deceptive sexy bodies. Your life is more precious than 5 minutes 😂

 

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LIFESTYLE: 4 reasons your vagina smells a little funky

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LIFESTYLE: 4 reasons your vagina smells a little funky

Ever get that not-so-clean feeling? We’ve all been there: You head to the bathroom post-workout and bam, things don’t really smell so fresh down there.

But is that really even have a problem? Your vagina isn’t supposed to smell like roses, and a lot of women think that there’s something wrong with them when there isn’t, says Lauren Streicher, MD, medical director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for Sexual Health and Menopause and author of Sex Rx: Hormones, Health, and Your Best Sex Ever.

You’re leaking pee

“When you talk about vaginal odour, the first thing you need to figure out is whether it is, in fact, coming from the vagina, or is it really a genital odour?” says Dr Streicher. (Remember, your vagina is located inside of your body, while everything surrounding it is your vulva or your external genitals.) For a lot of women, it’s incontinence.” In many cases, women have just a small amount of leakage that they’re not really aware of—they only notice the odour.

– Freshen up: Since the root of this issue is external (urine hanging around your genitals or underwear), showering and changing clothes should do the trick. But do tell your doc if you often have trouble making it to the bathroom on time. There are meds and other interventions that can help.

You’re sweaty down there

Feeling swampy? Don’t freak out, dealing with a sweaty crotch is actually pretty normal. Most of your body is covered in eccrine glands, which produces a watery sweat that doesn’t always lead to a funky smelly. But other parts of your body—especially your armpits and groin—are home to apocrine glands, which release more of a stinky sweat, Suzanne Friedler, MD, of Advanced Dermatology in New York City

Wearing panty liners and exercising frequently can also lock in odour since heat gets trapped in. Some people also deal with excessive sweating, a condition known as hyperhidrosis. It’s more common around your underarms, hands, and feet, but can also affect your crotch area.

– Freshen up: Ditch the panty liners, look for underwear made of breathable cotton, and try to change immediately after your workout (Certain brands even have sweat-wicking properties, like these from Hanes.) Trimming your pubic hair also helps since it can trap odour, especially during the warmer months.

You’re harbouring a missing tampon

It sounds crazy, but Dr Streicher says that lots of women insert a tampon and forget to take it out. Maybe you’re at the end of your period but put one in “just in case,” and then it slips your mind because your time of the month was ending. You could have mindlessly inserted a new tampon without taking the first one out. Assuming it’s lingered in there for a while, the smell will be really strong, says Dr Streicher.

– Freshen up: You guessed it—you need to get the tampon out. Your doctor can easily remove it, or you can take a crack at it yourself: Lie flat on your back and put two fingers deep into your vagina. “Women can probably get it out themselves, but most of the time they don’t even know it’s there,” says Dr Streicher.

The bacteria in your vagina are out of whack

“The most common cause of vaginal odour is an imbalance in the normal flora in the vagina,” which causes a fishy odour, irritation, and thin to no vaginal discharge, says Dr Streicher. This unpleasant bacteria can take over anytime, but it’s most apt to happen after your period or sex because both blood and semen can throw off your natural pH.

What about yeast infections? Those might cause a slight yeasty scent, but the odour is rarely the main complaint. Itching and thick, white discharge are more common.

– Freshen up: If it turns into a full-blown infection (known as bacterial vaginosis), you’ll need antibiotics. But in many cases, you can catch the problem before it calls for meds. Dr Streicher tells patients to try RepHresh Vaginal Gel, which works to correct the pH balance in your vagina. You should notice a major improvement after two treatments, she says. If you don’t, it’s time to call your doctor (and probably get a prescription).

How to get rid of vaginal odour

Remember, your vagina doesn’t need to smell like Febreze. When it comes to keeping odour at bay, you don’t have to do much. Beyond the reasons listed above, your vagina actually does a really good job of balancing out your pH and bacteria all on its own.

However, cleansing with a gentle soap around your vulva during your typical shower won’t hurt. Go for one that’s gentle, hypoallergenic, and unscented. Just avoid washing directly in your vagina (and douching is a major no-no) since this can actually disrupt your pH and mess with your natural bacteria, increasing your risk of infection.

As for those special feminine hygiene washes? You don’t need them, says Dr Streicher. “They won’t help with infections, and for regular cleansing plain soap and water is fine.”

Source: prevention.com

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