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Good Sex And Lies Keep Women In Bad Relationships

Truth be told, good sex and lies is what it takes to waste ten years of a lady’s life. When the sex is good, she accidentally yells “I love you” out of ecstasy, but the truth is, she doesn’t love him. To add insult to injuries, is when the guy replies “I love you too” and it feels like they are so much in love and will be together for life.

It is heart breaking to hear a lady say she has been dating a man for ten years or more and is still chasing him for marriage. The question that comes to mind is, “what is really wrong with her?” It is even sadder to hear they have kids but the man is not thinking of getting married to her. The famous statement that follows is “but I love him”.

At one moment she feels so good; in another she comes to her senses and feels used. This makes her so confused and attached. She has never met anyone who makes her feel this way, a feeling so unique, sweet and good. She then concludes “I am madly in love with him”.

You are not married to him and that makes having sex with him a mistake but you called such as love. The next time you see him with another lady, you feel a sharp pain within your heart. You asked yourself “How can the one who gave me so much pleasure also cause me so much pain?

He promised to marry you in future, and you felt secured having sex with him, but as the years pass by, the marriage never comes. At one point he says “I am out of love, give me some space”. A space he uses to explore elsewhere. He comes back and it feels as if you are getting married the next year.

Before you know it, you are five years and counting. In case you don’t know, Marriage is not lip service. You cannot keep sleeping with lies and wonder why you wake up each day with disappointment. Do you think giving sex is what it takes to get a marriage?

Getting sex is so easy and cheap. You can give a man sex 24/7 yet failed to earn his heart or get his commitment or connect with his soul or build a future with him.

I feel sad to say this but the truth is, when you take sex from many relationships, you will discover there is nothing remaining. And once the lady says no to sex, such a relationship comes to an end. The question, if a man is with you just because of sex, then who or what are you?

Having sex with someone you are not married to is a mistake, and such mistakes define your future if you term it as love. Life is all about making adjustments. If you don’t correct your mistakes today, you live to regret.

When you subtract the number of years you are in your current relationship from your age, ask yourself this, was I ready for marriage when I started dating? What you thought was love when you started the relationship and what you think is love now, are they the same?

It will be obvious that what you called love was a mistake. “When we were children, we thought and reasoned as children do. But when we grew up, we quit our childish ways” – 1 Corinthians 13:11 (CEV). Marriage is not by mistake, it is intentional. No wise person holds onto their mistakes, they rather use them as stepping stones to rise.

In conclusion “An inheritance obtained too early in life is not a blessing in the end” – Proverbs 20:21 (NLT).
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5 Things Which Destroy Relationships

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5 Things Which Destroy Relationships

Please permit me to comfortably share my views on five things which destroy relationships these days. Using my many years of experiences in fruitful and bitter relationships, I want to assist you to know the barriers to good romantic relationships. A lot of marriages today have lost their meanings. What happens now is that; two lovers stand before sacramental altars to make unfounded promises that they would never split until death separates them. Ironically, these untrustworthy promises sometimes fail to manifest their usefulness in the long run. The result of these failed promises is what we call divorce. But this is completely normal. Successful marriages do yield responsible offsprings who remain to create progenies.

The following 5 factors destroy relationships

Infidelity

As I opined above, some marriage partners are only good at making promises, some couples don’t live by their words.  Those who find no sexual satisfaction with their partners eventually step out of their marriages to seek better extramarital sex. Wealth doesn’t necessarily guarantee a successful and trustworthy marriages; there are many rich marriages that have fallen on the rocks. We have heard a lot of such stories where rich football players father unknown children from their wives. Some married men also produce illegal kids with the different women who aren’t their legitimate partners. Conversely, there are lot of impoverished marriages which have stood the test of time. When the hidden sexual agendas of unfaithful couples are brought to the limelight, the immediate result is normally divorce.

Childlessness

This isn’t uncommon in our society today. The main reasons for many marriages is to procreate. Even though, sexual gratification might stand as the focus of other marriage types, but generally, most couple marry in order to produce children.  Consequently, in situations where married couples struggle unsuccessfully for decades to produce just one child, the end result is normally calling it quits. This is completely understandable. In many of such unfortunate scenarios, the childless couple eventually take bold collective decisions to end their marriage. To them, there is no use staying together without having children.

Unresolved conflicts

Married couples aren’t always perfect or happy and compatible as we see them. Disagreements over crucial decisions such as family planning, social security and sharing or possession of properties could engulf couples. When fights, insults and disrespect constantly erupt among couples, there is a higher tendency for divorce to gradually eat its way into such marriages. However, when conflicting partners are humble enough to seek counselling or peaceful conflict resolutions, sometimes it’s possible to save such quarreling marriages from divorce. There are also marriages in which partners are consumed by pride, disrespect and animosity. Physical assault or bullying by partners will eventually lead to divorce. It is very common for partners in rural traditional marriages to suffers beatings and threats from their spouses. How long can partners endure such brutal beatings? Definitely, not for many years.

Sexual incompatibilities

Sex is very important in marriages. It is the accident that leads to the occurrence of pregnancies and later on, child birth. In situations where married partners do not get the desirable amount of sexual intercourse from their better-halves, issues could turn worse. When the man or woman is very weak in bed and can’t last for a reasonable amount of time during intercourse, it could leave the fate of such a marriage in tatters.  Some couples also develop insatiable sexual desires (addiction to sex). It’s impossible for an impotent man to settle down successfully with a prostitute. It’s a clear fact. Let’s don’t argue.

Extreme poverty

Some couples produce countless children but lack the economic resources to cater for the needs of such overpopulated families. Lack of money to buy basic household necessities such as food, water, shelter and clothing could mar the joys of married couples. How can a couple have sex like if their stomachs are empty? Like the saying goes, “an army matches on its stomach.” Its unwise to expect a successful marriage from couples who continuously shirk their responsibilities. Good mothers should cook food for the family, bath the kids and fetch water. Responsible husbands should pay children school fees, provide shelter and foodstuff for the family. When couples fail to meet growing demands for basic needs and cost of utilities, it could result in divorce; a possible solution to that misery.

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The Right Time to Marry Your Girlfriend?

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When is the Right Time to Marry Your Girlfriend

Girlfriends differ in beauty and character. But how will you perfectly plan the right time to marry the right girlfriend? It’s not enough to have a good girlfriend; the pressing issue is when to finally decide to take her to the altar. Nowadays, the ultimate goal of most serious romantic relationships is marriage. Consequently, once you enter into a relationship, you become tied to a string of marriage promises.

 

There is no doubt that marriage is an important social institution which fulfills the common dreams of the lovers involved. In fact, I can’t wait to get married to Bella (my supposed beautiful girlfriend). We have been together for too long (almost 3 years). Even though I would like to get married as soon as possible, I do think that marrying the right girlfriend at the wrong time could negatively affect your futures. The worst case scenario is when you marry a wrong girlfriend at the wrong time; then you are finished.

 

Are you bothered with thoughts about when you should marry your sweetheart? Does your girlfriend keep pestering you with marriage arrangements? Don’t worry; Be relieved. This article will assist you to cope with the pressures and demands which come with dating.

Factors to Consider Before Marriage

Desirable Partner Qualities

Girlfriends come in millions but few are good and marriageable. We can say that, many are called, but few must be chosen. A man may be able to hide and date multiple girls for fun, but theoretically, it’s impossible for him to get married to all of them. I think it is pretty easy to figure out the right girl to marry. Just ask yourself these questions: Do you really love each other? Is your partner understandable or trustworthy? Is she respectful? Can she support you to achieve your dreams? For me, these are the most important qualities I usually expect from good girlfriends. Once I ascertain that a girl possesses these desirable qualities, it becomes very easy for me to fall for such a girl. I can even die for her. Please, don’t try that at home.

 

Capability to Shoulder Responsibilities

I’m still a bachelor, but I can see that, marriage is like an official registration to carry out responsibilities. There is bride price to pay. That is not all; you will have to provide for the physical and emotional needs of your partner. It sounds like marriage isn’t for kids and broke boys. A friend of mine (Emmanuel) shared a marriage advice with me. According to him, if you prematurely rush into a marriage, you will rush out.

 

It’s better to take time to analyze your pocket before you allow a girl to trap you into a poverty-stricken marriage. Even though, riches do not guarantee a successful marriage, money makes things easier. With money, there is more joy and less fights. You need money to be able to take good care of your wife and family. Depending on the nature or class of your girlfriend, it may even be possible for you to get married with little resources. Several people have done it successfully. It is up to you to decide whether you have the minimum amount of resources to sustain a marriage. Do you have time and money?

 

As a fresh unemployed graduate, I wish I could marry early before the age of 29 or 30. The problem is that, I need to get a job or source of income before I succumb myself to marriage pressure from my girlfriend. I don’t know why girls like marriage like that. Is it a world cup? LoL! Anyway, that is understandable. Grown-up girls need independence from their family. At the same time, they are equally pressured by their friends and family members to marry. Therefore, it’s ok for girls to love marriage. However, good girlfriends should ensure that they give their men a chance to succeed, so that they can take good care of their needs. Pressuring a man to marry you ASAP, is not the right way to secure a husband. If he likes/loves you, he will marry you when he is ready. Don’t give too much pressure for young boys to marry you. We understand your impatience, but please gives us a break. We are sorting things out, one after the other.

About My Girlfriend (Bella) and Me

I just don’t know how it happened, but I think my partner and I were destined for each other. We have a fantastic chemistry. Our sense of fun matches perfectly. Fortunately, or maybe unfortunately, our educational levels are far apart. I’m a graduate; she is not. The good news is that, we understand, respect and love ourselves to the maximum. We fool together, cry together and advise each other and hustle together. That’s the beauty of our union. This is not to say that we don’t have problems. In fact, we do argue and annoy each other at times, but we often resolve our differences ASAP.

 

Anyway, forget about my bragging with my girlfriend. I just want to share my relationship experience with you.

 

In summary, the right time for you to marry your girlfriend is when you are ready with cash and attention. In addition to that, make sure your girlfriend is the marriageable type. I have already written great articles about qualities of good girlfriends. Read them and assess your partner before marriage

 

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3 Shocking Secrets of Girls

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3 Shocking Secrets of Girls

Having a girlfriend could be a blessing. Example: For bad cooks like myself, it feels great when she comes around to cook good some food for you, in addition to washing and cleaning. As a careless boyfriend, my room is always disorganized until Bella comes to change its appearance. An icing on the cake is when she allows you to swim inside her. No two ways about that; you get to hit the target and  whatnots. You can’t forget to mention the sensations that travel through your nervous system when you kiss her. 😄 Women are just specially made. Let’s give them an A+. Their soft bodies and curvy shapes are gamechangers. Not a lot of men can overlook a fat ass lady passing by. I wonder whether ladies also watch me when I swagger through town; I have never caught a glimpse of a lady trying to steal look at me. My looks aren’t that bad, so why? Anyway, I don’t mind at all.

Unfortunately, behind the appealing shapes of Girlfriends are deep secrets. This article will reveal everything today. Adequate knowledge about the true character of girls is a great asset; it can improve a relationship. But don’t be fooled! If you dig too deep into the secrets of girls, you might lose interest in continuing a relationship. It is advised that you practice moderation when searching for answers; you might become a lifetime enemy to girls.

The following are 3 secrets about girls and girlfriends in general.

They Love Lies

You don’t need to always be truthful to your girlfriend. It’s alright to occasionally lie to her. The truth hurts. So what do you do? Give them lies. I remember that day I told someone that I will put a ring on her finger very soon, she was beaming with smiles. Well, deep within me, it was just a comforting statement😄. I still don’t know my front from my back; you talking of rings, come on.

It’s also important for guys to realize that too much of lies can ruin a serious relationship. Constant lies jeopardize the level of trust between the partners. However, it will shock you to know that some girlfriends are even better liars than boys. A good boyfriend should be able to fish out a lying or cheating girlfriend and then react accordingly.

They Hate to Be Fooled

Girls love funny lies but they also hate to be disrespected. Just like men, girls love to be respected and valued. If you go too far with harsh words on your girlfriend, you are slowly decreasing her love for you. They want to have their voices heard, their ideas executed and their advice taken. The last time I made mockery of my girlfriend, I nearly received dirty slaps. I don’t exactly remember what I did.

Ok, got it. She found it unfunny when I started dancing around her to express my joy that she would finally leave my residence the following day, and therefore relieve me from unnecessary expenditure 😃. Ha-ha! That was too lame for her liking. I had fun in saying that, but the look on her face was scary and sorrowful. I had to apologize for saying the truth that way. Remember? I told you that they love lies. Maybe she wanted me to keep pretending that my pocket was still loaded with cash. That was not true to me. If she had intended to stay longer than that, my prepaid electricity meter would have exposed me bigly. I was left with her transportation fee.

They Like Money; They Hate Poverty

There you go. It’s normal though. The fact is everybody likes money (including men). Money brings a lot of comfort. Unfortunately, we are still in a generation where most females depend on males for their daily bread. To me, there is nothing wrong with that. The only thing that bores me is when I hear lies such as “What Men Can Do, Women Can Even Do It Better”. I’m sorry, but the statement seems to mean that if men can date women, women can even eat their monies better 😂. I will agree with that one👍.

But don’t get me wrong.  Like I said, it’s not wrong for girls to occasionally request for money from their boyfriends. I even feel happy when I am able to cater for the needs of someone. The problem is that; some girls are like beggars. The only feel shy to step out and beg on the streets.

Some girlfriends are just too financially demanding. For me, I hate their type. I love the average girls who understand the hustles of life and believe in building a future with me. Gold diggers are not wife- materials. We already learnt about that in my earlier articles about qualities of good girlfriends and boyfriends. Many guys have become broke and poor because they went in for expensive girls (Slay Queens). Slay Queens are good-looking, but most of them cannot settle down with 1 man. Because of their promiscuity, some of them even harbor dangerous diseases. Be careful with their deceptive sexy bodies. Your life is more precious than 5 minutes 😂

 

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